: Last week at my mum’s birthday party my aunts... →
microaggressions: Last week at my mum’s birthday party my aunts would scowl and say “Don’t you want to go and play instead of eating so much?” whenever my 5 year old cousin took a new piece of candy or ice cream. Whenever my 6 year old cousin (who had had just as much as my 5yo cousin) would eat more there were no…
Best Microaggression ever.
microaggressions: Submission we liked ;) I’m biracial and I have a vaguely Muslim-sounding name. People keep accusing me of being a terrorist and I had to hold a press conference about my birth certificate to prove I’m an American. First black president, USA. Made me feel annoyed.
see if you can spot the irony
cocoku: holographic-unicorn: mycultureisnotatrend: man destroying other cultures sure is bad. but awesome headdress dude!!! I just don’t even have anything to say anymore….
File under: easier said than done
In light of the comments on this Jez post about the humiliating experience a dying woman and her daughter had at the hands of the TSA, I thought I should post something I wrote when my mom was still alive, before hospice care started, when I was the one helping her with activities of daily life like toileting and bathing. I wrote this to try to describe to my friends why I was thoroughly exhausted...
If no woman in your life has ever talked to you about how she lives her life...– —Chris Clarke, How Not To Be An Asshole: A Guide For Men (2011 version) Goddamn this post is still one of my all-time faves.
A label is an abstraction/social construct, not a directive. Desire comes first,...– Riese at Autostraddle. This quote (and the article) made me really fucking happy.
If someone gets too drunk and they pass out, and a gang of dudes decides that...– Amanda Marcotte
.jnf.: Oh hey speaking of ridiculous things to get... →
jsmooth995: Animal ethicists are calling for a new vocabulary about animals, shunning words such as “pets,” “wildlife,” and “vermin” as derogatory and even suggesting “animal” is a “term of abuse.” Common language on fauna betrays an “anthropocentric bias” and impedes an understanding of our interaction… I do think language matters, and I’m down with dropping “owner” in favor of “caretaker,”...
On the operating table, I was prepped for the procedure by a female nurse and a...– Amber Leab, guest posting at Shakesville
The Intervention that Wasn't
Lately I have been completely hooked (har har) on the show Intervention. I’d seen it a couple times on cable at my parents’ house, but I found it too depressing. But then it showed up on Netflix Instant, and I have been watching it serially. If you’re not familiar with the show, it’s basically What Not to Wear for the soul—it involves a family staging an intervention...
.jnf.: The Best Comments from a Fox News Story on... →
Does everyone here understand the Fed Reserve has not had a press conference in 90 years and they are having one today!!!!! This BC is being released today to distract from the real bad news we are about to get from the bankers. This is merely another “bait and switch” from this Admin. It has…
I think the technical term is "What What in the...
annalsofonlinedating: apologies in advance… yum yum up the bum!!! well when u free treacle??? xxx ________________________________________________ +15 for “yum yum in the bum.” WHY. +4 for apologizing, and then doing something entirely inappropriate. +6 for “treacle.” I am 86 years old, I guess, because I do not know what that is. +3 for “xxx.” Yup. TOTAL POINTS: 28.
If you’re a dude who has never been groped against your will, and who is...– The lady is a tramp: On getting my bits touched by the TSA (via theoryofgravity) I think this is a really important point; it doesn’t make the outrage at the TSA procedures any less genuine, but it does explain the intensity and the shock that was so apparent in the “don’t touch...
Men will often admit other women are oppressed but not you.– Sheila Rowbotham (via earlyfrost) Eg-fucking-zactly. Just like we’re all outraged and horrified by the statistics of sexual abuse, but we tend to try and discredit individuals. (via cocoku)
No false patriotic wreath
Rick Santorum made a funny! He thought his campaign slogan “Fighting to Make America America Again” would really stick it to all those Muslims, gays, feminists, and so on, who obviously want to dismantle the republic, stat. But apparently he slept through senior English, because he was totally surprised to find out about this extremely famous poem by extremely famous American poet...
Here are some things that happens to a dude when he first starts to speak up...– Why Feminism Is Also Dude-ism, by Dan Solomon, on the always awesome Hay Ladies (NB: Cis women are not the only people who have to worry about pregnancy and harassment.)
I can say nothing about this but “OMFG” on repeat until I die.
Between Chicago winter, dissertation writing, chronic migraines, and Mr Machine’s frequent work travel, I’ve been feeling pretty blah lately. Not depressed, exactly, and no longer in the depths of grief that I was this time last year: just underwhelmed by the world. But today felt like a genuine spring day—warm sun, cool breeze, birds everywhere—and it made me think about...
Tiger Beatdown: Life Among the One Percent →
meloukhia: This is very asexuality 101 for most of you, but here’s the more advanced bit for your reading pleasure! To take just one example of the need for asexual visibility and broader inclusion of asexual people in ongoing conversations within social justice and feminist communities, including asexuality in conversations about sexuality is critical. Asexuals are poorly understood by sexual...
#thingsfatpeoplearetold: The first 24 hours →
A(n)nals of Online Dating: No idea why this guy is... →
annalsofonlinedating: From the “You should message me if…” section of this dude’s profile: If you’re reasonably tall (5’6-6’, no more than that because, while I don’t mind being eye to eye with you, I won’t ever be looking up to you), you’re passionate and intelligent so as to be good company, sexually liberated, and… I think I’m in love.
Ode to the Maggot Brother of the blowfly And godhead, you work magic Over...– Yusef Komunyakaa
Friend: Well what if we have a disabled kid? What happens then?
Her fiance: Well, then we drown them at birth. Problem solved.
As reported on my friend's blog. Made me feel like as a disabled person, able-bodied people think my life has no value.
I have no birthright to prove, no insignia, no secret password, no...– from “Unnatural State of the Unicorn,” Yusef Komunyakaa
Fuck the internet. Am I right?
Rotundlr: purpleshinyriv asked: Hey! I know you... →
therotund: sanitywatchers: I mean, some people’s shouty posts aside, we aren’t using labels to formally define rigid categories of fat for purposes of exclusion I AM, I TOTALLY AM YOU TOTALLY WOULD, YOU PERSON, YOU I’M IN CHARGE LIKE CHARLES
Rotundlr: purpleshinyriv asked: Hey! I know you... →
I mean, some people’s shouty posts aside, we aren’t using labels to formally define rigid categories of fat for purposes of exclusion I AM, I TOTALLY AM
You don't have to go home but you can't stay here
Okay, that was a fun little trip down Nostalgia Lane, but there was a reason I stopped blogging at SP, and it’s the same reason I haven’t actually linked to Christmas Q’s blog: I have no desire to engage with people whose sole desire is to antagonize me. Instead, I will sum up what I have gotten out of this conversation: A person who is willing to use an oppressed group to which...
Confidential to C.Q.H.
The problem with starting a fake gay-bashing group to make a point about fat-bashing is that you are participating in gay-bashing, whether you are sincere about it or not. Would you do a study on sexual harassment by going out and sexually harassing people? It’s not about whose opinion counts more because of how much more oppressed they are. It’s about not throwing one group of people...
There are the occasions that men—intellectual men, clever men, engaged...– Melissa McEwan, of course, on the terrible bargain. My life as a woman, as a queer person, as a fat person, is not your thought experiment.
Stay classy, Sweet Machine.– Advice for me from someone who thinks making “experimental” gaybashing groups is totally okay, for science. Classy!
shemustbeonherperiod asked: I know about the current battle-but what actually happened on the link you referenced? I clicked the link that he left and it didn't work. I think we've all had issues with him at some point.
I'm getting all nostalgic up in here
While I’m on a roll, I would also like to point out that Christmas Q. Hams, in a misguided attempt to get Facebook to take down fat-hating groups, started his own gay-bashing groups. You know, as an experiment. So that’s a thing that happened. Some people are really not on your side, even if they can parrot the rhetoric. And now I will stop, because his douchery was already boring...
Henceforth, the person I alluded to in the last post will be referred to as Christmas Q. Hams.
So apparently there is some kind of Tumblr blogfight going on between some FA people, including a couple friends of mine (hi!), about self-identification and erasure and all that related stuff. I’m not going to link to it because I’ve been following the thread back through the reblog labyrinth and still haven’t found the beginning. But I would just like to take this opportunity...
Girls should stop caring about being sexy,...
White hipster male 1: I can't believe how gross that Indian eyebrow threading shit is. I saw video of it.
White hipster male 2: I know. I don't like women who spend all their time and money trying to look good for men. And when they get rid of all the hair and then have to pencil it in - it's just sad and they have too much time on their hands. Read a book, woman!
White hipster male 1: Yeah, women like that are stupid. Besides, I like bushier eyebrows. That's sexy.
Made me feel annoyed, invisible, at a loss for words.
Winter Spring A script of trees before the hill Spells cold, with laden...– Richard Wilbur